M3:D73 Realism

 

What's on my mind today?

Ever wonder why people have a hard time expressing themselves?  How about why people can't seem to get out what is on their mind at all?  I've recently had this experience and for me, an expressive person, it is frustrating.  I believe in my situation the issue is realism.  The person I had trouble with just wasn't ready to be real about the situation.  Rather than get out there what was on their mind they chose to say that they didn't know or weren't sure.  The problem is that what they said they were doing contradicted their comment that they didn't know.

I see realism as an issue in fitness as well.  People tend to set drastic and unrealistic goals.  I once had a 250 pound friend who wanted to get down to 165 pounds.  After getting down to 230 pounds quickly, the progress slowed.  This person got frustrated at the lack of progress and did a backslide on nutritional issues.  Exercise soon followed suit.  The cause of all this?  Lack of realism.  Had they been realistic they would have realized that weight always tends to come off fast at first.  Later, when it slows down, the real work begins.  By not having a realistic set of expectations my friend went off track quickly.

We must set realistic goals and adjust them according to our real results.  We must not expect miracles.  While it is possible for miracles to happen, they are not the norm.  We must understand (realistically) that it is going to take hard work to reach our goals, especially if they are a stretch like they should be.  The amazing thing is that as you get more and more real about your goals you set more and more stretch goals.  I believe this is because you begin to realize that you can and will hit any goal you set, so why not set goals that are a stretch?  It is a change in mindset that leads you down the right path.


Accountability
 
Find out what I'm doing to my body!

Today I went for a nice 2 mile run in the neighborhood.
 
Exercise the brain with the Thought of the Day!

Always set realistic goals that are a stretch but  can be met.
 
Get a discussion started by answering the question!

Realistic or not realistic, which one fits you the best?  Comment this post to answer the question.
 
 
 

Mission 1, Day 73: Still in reflection mode

Until tomorrow...GET BACK TO LIFTING!

 
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  • 7/25/2008 4:45 AM Danny wrote:
    i agree with having realistic goals entirely. But there is always a bit of space for dreams in my oppinion.
    When you see a cake and you would love to eat the whole thing right then, but cant because of your stomaches compasity beeing limited.
    So why not cut it in slices and have it piece for piece over time.
    (maybe a bad example on a Physique Transformation blog)
    Anyways, I think you should set an ultimate goal and then a mission goal, like taking steps on a staircase till you are at the top, just divide it into realistic timed goals.

    Shred on man.

    Danny
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    1. 7/25/2008 6:29 AM Michael Mahony wrote:
      Danny, I'm not sure you totally got my point.  The point I was making is that people set goals that are impossible and then derail themselves as a result.  I believe people should start out with only goals that are realistic.  After they make progress with these goals they can then go after dreams, but I personally think that dreams are usually realistic for achieving as well.
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      1. 7/25/2008 3:35 PM Danny wrote:
        Yeah i got your point.
        My above comment was a bit of rambling anyways.
        I agreee with what you say entirely.
        In the beginning people usually cant be sure of their real abilities and how their progress will go.
        best to start with small goals. If they notice that they underestimated themselves, they can always go harder and exeed their planned results.
        The first couple of weeks are more of a learning experience. After that you should have a better idea what to anticipate if you shred hard.

        Btw, any dream is archiveable if you cut it down into blocks and work at it as hard as you can ^^

        Have a good night

        Danny
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        1. 7/26/2008 7:14 AM Michael Mahony wrote:
          Danny, your cake analogy was really a good one.  I've tried to tell several people that they can have huge dream type goals, but the way to achieve them is to break them into smaller pieces.  You want to go from 250 lbs. down to 150 lbs.?  Set smaller goals for the weight loss, with the ulitimate goal of losing 100 lbs. My goal is to be lean and muscular.  I'm approaching that goal by cycling myself through phases of cutting and bulking.  Thanks for the comment!
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  • 7/25/2008 5:42 PM juli wrote:
    Hey Michael,

    you are looking great today and I am happy that your leg got better; please keep us updated with the healing-process.

    I fully agree with you.
    Furthermore I think that setting-goals is also a learning process. In the end all goals should be SMART, as it is personal "project-management" to reach them. With time, many dreams become log-term projects and missions and it is not a problem anymore to go on a very long-term mission. You guys do it here now too, you, Adam, Mike. You have long-term goals for which I admire all of you. You learned to have the discipline and you learned that you will reach yor goal with time.

    Enjoy your weekend,

    Juli
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    1. 7/26/2008 7:15 AM Michael Mahony wrote:
      Juli, you've nailed it.  I am enjoying all your posts.  Thanks for commenting on a regular basis.  It keeps me motivated!
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  • 3/7/2009 11:59 AM Ron wrote:
    Hey Michael,

    I just found your blog today and admire what you're doing. One comment I have is that many of us try real hard (many methods tried and used) but may not give enough attention to the recovery phase. I've found that not being so young anymore (I'm 56), I need a week or so to totally recover if I do exercises to the point of really exhausting the muscles. My son & I have been working at fitness for a few years, but the best explanation I've seen is Scott Abbett's Hard Body Success. He suggests that (of course) without straining, one exercise through several sets of repetitions (6 or 7 or so) with three or four minute rest in between the sets. Then give your body enough time (several days if necessary) to fully, really, really recover. Then, when your body is absolutely no longer sore, and the muscles feel really great, you're ready to exercise again.

    If the muscles are not fully recovered, then exercising too soon will actually prevent progress. My son and I have found that this insight is really accurate, and quite valuable, because so many people work very hard without getting the results needed.

    His work is online at:
    http://hardbodysuccess.com/

    I am grateful for the insights I've learned from his book and tapes.

    Recovery time is something people know about, but don't believe is necessary. I (and many others) have thought, just work hard, keep at it, and we'll get results, but then get frustrated. Scott's approach allows for a really very intense workout, but more rest in between for the part of the body worked (different parts of the body on different days). It works like nothing else I've tried.
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